If you’re not used to public speaking, then making a wedding speech can be very daunting. With this in mind, Pacific Creative Studio has prepared a few important tips to help you overcome your nerves and deliver a great wedding speech.
Remember these people are on your side.
They aren’t secretly hoping you’ll mess things up. The reason you’re there giving a speech is that you are connected with the people there, and so are the audience. Bearing this in mind, you can rest assured that anything you say in your wedding speech will be listened to and respected fully.
People listening to speeches at weddings are wanting to laugh
Laughter breaks the tension. So any vague attempt of a joke will get you a response. Practice your wedding speech thoroughly. The more your practice, the less speech nerves you’ll feel on the actual day. Remember to practice the intonation of your voice and the pauses. By showing you’ve put effort into your preparation, any mistakes you may make on the day will be easily forgiven.
Learn your speech by heart.
Whenever you have some spare time, in the car on the way to work, in the shower or wherever…practice your speech. Repeat it over and over again as many times as you can before the big day. You will feel much calmer on the big day and have less speech nerves as you’ll know the whole speech inside out.
Remember to breathe.
As simple as this sounds, it is often overlooked. Practice where you’ll take a breath in the speech, and learn to breathe correctly. Diaphragmatic breathing, as used by singers and public speakers, will help you here. If you’re unfamiliar with this, a quick search on Google will show you.
Think of a funny story before you stand up.
Nothing so funny that you lose your focus, but something mildly titillating that will bring a smile to your face. This will loosen you up, and give a nice energy to your wedding speech that will improve the delivery immensely.
Have a banana 20 minutes before you make your speech.
This tip is often used by professional public speakers and helps the nerves of many people. It also gives a nice energy boost which helps reduce your nerves.
Speak slowly and clearly.
If you are experiencing speech nerves, you will feel the urge to speed up and your speech will become unclear. So try to consciously slow yourself down and speak clearly so people can hear what you say. If it sounds a little slow to you, it probably sounds perfect to everyone else.
Make eye contact with people in the audience.
Making eye contact will make your speech feel like you’re just chatting with everyone who is there.
If eye contact makes you nervous, look just at the tops of everyone’s heads. Picking a spot at the back of the room makes it seem obvious that you’re avoiding looking at people. Starting at your paper or your notecards also gives a non-personable impact.
Remember to simply enjoy yourself!
Your life isn’t going to end if you make a few mistakes…and it will be over in just a few minutes. Have fun!